As I celebrate my anniversary with my husband, we have been shocked into a reality we have not yet had to deal with.
My friend's husband passed away yesterday, after complications from the heart surgery.
She will now spend what would have been his 42nd birthday, celebrating his life one final time as she buries him.
She will not have the opportunity to celebrate their marriage again, as their anniversary would have been next week.
Instead of preparing for what should have been a week of birthday and anniversary celebrations, she is trying to figure out many other things.
Things my hubby and I have not really talked about.
Life insurance...where are the policies, how much, what terms.
Health insurance...how much longer will the kids be covered before having to get alternate insurance?
Mortgage insurance...do we have it? Is the mortgage paid off in this event?
Car payments...how much is still owed? What is the resale value?
Bank accounts, investment accounts...how many, where are they, passwords, value?
So while I celebrate with my husband, we both realize that there are things we need to discuss and prepare for.
While I am not looking forward to these discussions, I know they must be had. And I know, that should something happen to either one of us...it will help the other one of us get through an already difficult time.
Til next time, I'll still be...
Being Brenda
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Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Continued Prayers
On Friday I posted about some misfortunes to the hubbies of two of my dear friends, as well as my mom.
My mom is still in pain; however, she is moving around - although slowly. She never did go to the doctor or ER.
I have not heard back from my friend whose hubby was in the car accident.
I do know her hubby is home. They have a hospital bed set up in their family room for him, and home nurses are coming daily to help her with his care.
We continue to pray for this family daily.
My dear friend, and neighbor just left my house.
Her hubby is still in the hospital, after emergency open heart surgery from an aortic tear.
He is awake now, but has suffered from some complications, which they are hoping will resolve themselves.
His kidneys are not functioning properly, although they are functioning which is a good sign.
He is also having difficulty moving his right side, as well as speaking. The doctors have stated that speech is controlled by the same area/side of the brain as right side movement, and that this will come in time, along with some therapy.
Please continue keeping these dear friends of mine in your prayers.
They are both amazing women, and have families to continue caring for as well as husband's now needing more than all their wives have to give.
Til next time, I'll still be...
Being Brenda
My mom is still in pain; however, she is moving around - although slowly. She never did go to the doctor or ER.
I have not heard back from my friend whose hubby was in the car accident.
I do know her hubby is home. They have a hospital bed set up in their family room for him, and home nurses are coming daily to help her with his care.
We continue to pray for this family daily.
My dear friend, and neighbor just left my house.
Her hubby is still in the hospital, after emergency open heart surgery from an aortic tear.
He is awake now, but has suffered from some complications, which they are hoping will resolve themselves.
His kidneys are not functioning properly, although they are functioning which is a good sign.
He is also having difficulty moving his right side, as well as speaking. The doctors have stated that speech is controlled by the same area/side of the brain as right side movement, and that this will come in time, along with some therapy.
Please continue keeping these dear friends of mine in your prayers.
They are both amazing women, and have families to continue caring for as well as husband's now needing more than all their wives have to give.
Til next time, I'll still be...
Being Brenda
Friday, October 3, 2008
Prayer Request
This week has been a roller coaster.
I found out early in the week that a close friend's husband had been in a severe car accident.
Thanks to God, and his seatbelt, he is still alive; although he has a very long road to recovery. His wife is currently pregnant with their third child, on partial bedrest, so it is a very difficult time for her.
We have been praying for their family all week.
Then mid-week, we received some wonderful news.
Let me back track.
My sister-in-law is expecting twins. She is 19 weeks along.
About 9 weeks ago, she began having problems and it was discovered she had a hematoma (sp?) between one placenta and her uterus.
She was placed on complete bedrest.
This week, she went for another ultra-sound. The hematoma has been absorbed and is no longer a threat to the babies!
That was great news!
Fast forward to Wednesday night.
Hubby was home as it was his night off, and I was at a Home & School board meeting.
When I got home, hubby told my to place my key to our neighbor's (and friends) house under her front door mat. I asked him why.
Her hubby, who also works night shift (although somewhere different from my hubby) was rushed to the hospital from work.
She dropped her kids off at home from football practice with her house keys, and went to the hospital.
Until her oldest son got home from work, I was watching her 3 boys.
We heard nothing from her until the next morning.
She called at 7:25am on Thursday to ask for our prayers.
Her husband suffered an aortic tear and was in open heart surgery.
They gave him a 50/50 chance to live. He is 41. (This, I believe, is the same thing responsible for the death of actor John Ritter because his was not diagnosed in time)
My neighbor's hubby did survive the operation but his condition is still critical. He is in a drug induced coma at least through tomorrow to keep his blood pressure down.
And now tonight, I received a call from Lizzie, my mom.
She is home, in bed, having thrown her back out at work.
While she has had issues with her back for years, she told me on the phone that this is different pain. She is in pain lying in bed, but can barely stand or walk at all.
However, she will not go to the ER until tomorrow - despite my urging otherwise.
So, I ask for your prayers....
For the husband's of two of my dear friends - that they have full and speedy recoveries, at least as speedy as can safely be done.
For my two friends - to have the strength to continue being wonderful wives and moms, while handling everything which accompanies supporting their husbands through these difficult times.
For my sister-in-law - that all continues going well and the babies are healthy
And for my mom...that whatever is wrong with her back, is nothing serious and she recovers quickly.
I truly believe in the power of prayer....and any additional prayers from the blogosphere can only help these people close to me.
Til next time, I'll still be....
Being Brenda
I found out early in the week that a close friend's husband had been in a severe car accident.
Thanks to God, and his seatbelt, he is still alive; although he has a very long road to recovery. His wife is currently pregnant with their third child, on partial bedrest, so it is a very difficult time for her.
We have been praying for their family all week.
Then mid-week, we received some wonderful news.
Let me back track.
My sister-in-law is expecting twins. She is 19 weeks along.
About 9 weeks ago, she began having problems and it was discovered she had a hematoma (sp?) between one placenta and her uterus.
She was placed on complete bedrest.
This week, she went for another ultra-sound. The hematoma has been absorbed and is no longer a threat to the babies!
That was great news!
Fast forward to Wednesday night.
Hubby was home as it was his night off, and I was at a Home & School board meeting.
When I got home, hubby told my to place my key to our neighbor's (and friends) house under her front door mat. I asked him why.
Her hubby, who also works night shift (although somewhere different from my hubby) was rushed to the hospital from work.
She dropped her kids off at home from football practice with her house keys, and went to the hospital.
Until her oldest son got home from work, I was watching her 3 boys.
We heard nothing from her until the next morning.
She called at 7:25am on Thursday to ask for our prayers.
Her husband suffered an aortic tear and was in open heart surgery.
They gave him a 50/50 chance to live. He is 41. (This, I believe, is the same thing responsible for the death of actor John Ritter because his was not diagnosed in time)
My neighbor's hubby did survive the operation but his condition is still critical. He is in a drug induced coma at least through tomorrow to keep his blood pressure down.
And now tonight, I received a call from Lizzie, my mom.
She is home, in bed, having thrown her back out at work.
While she has had issues with her back for years, she told me on the phone that this is different pain. She is in pain lying in bed, but can barely stand or walk at all.
However, she will not go to the ER until tomorrow - despite my urging otherwise.
So, I ask for your prayers....
For the husband's of two of my dear friends - that they have full and speedy recoveries, at least as speedy as can safely be done.
For my two friends - to have the strength to continue being wonderful wives and moms, while handling everything which accompanies supporting their husbands through these difficult times.
For my sister-in-law - that all continues going well and the babies are healthy
And for my mom...that whatever is wrong with her back, is nothing serious and she recovers quickly.
I truly believe in the power of prayer....and any additional prayers from the blogosphere can only help these people close to me.
Til next time, I'll still be....
Being Brenda
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