As I celebrate my anniversary with my husband, we have been shocked into a reality we have not yet had to deal with.
My friend's husband passed away yesterday, after complications from the heart surgery.
She will now spend what would have been his 42nd birthday, celebrating his life one final time as she buries him.
She will not have the opportunity to celebrate their marriage again, as their anniversary would have been next week.
Instead of preparing for what should have been a week of birthday and anniversary celebrations, she is trying to figure out many other things.
Things my hubby and I have not really talked about.
Life insurance...where are the policies, how much, what terms.
Health insurance...how much longer will the kids be covered before having to get alternate insurance?
Mortgage insurance...do we have it? Is the mortgage paid off in this event?
Car payments...how much is still owed? What is the resale value?
Bank accounts, investment accounts...how many, where are they, passwords, value?
So while I celebrate with my husband, we both realize that there are things we need to discuss and prepare for.
While I am not looking forward to these discussions, I know they must be had. And I know, that should something happen to either one of us...it will help the other one of us get through an already difficult time.
Til next time, I'll still be...
Being Brenda
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Showing posts with label hubby. Show all posts
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
To My Husband
Today, hubby and I celebrate 13 years of marriage.
There are times it feels like we have been together forever...and other times it seems like it cannot be 13 years already.
In celebration of this anniversary, I would like to take this time to list 13 things I love about my hubby.
1. He makes me laugh. Everyday.
2. He believes in me, even when I don't believe in myself.
3. He is a hard worker, and good provider.
4. His personality shines - brightly when needed, and allows me to shine as well.
5. His hugs....strong, close, and warm.
6. He is a wonderful father to our children.
7. His patience - with me, the kids, and life.
8. He gives more of himself than I could ever ask. From working with Miss M on math homework before he leaves for work, volunteering time to coach Drewby's football team to helping around the house when I am consumed with my depression/anxiety or volunteer duties.
9. His positive outlook on life (I could use some of that to rub off on me!)
10. He can cook!
11. He knows what little things mean the most to me...from foot rubs and back stratching to chocolate and sleeping in.
12. He accepts me as I am....whether my anxiety and depression are in full force, or under control.
And last, but certainly not least,
13. He loves me....unconditionally and totally, through all the good and bad times we've had....and all that are yet to come.
So, as I celebrate 13 years of marriage to this wonderful man of my dreams, I want to thank him...for all the things listed above, and all the things I haven't listed.
Thank you for the last 13 years of marriage, for giving me two wonderful children, and for all the little gifts, and large sacrifices.
I love you honey, and always will.
Til next time, I'll still be...
Happily married, and
Being Brenda
There are times it feels like we have been together forever...and other times it seems like it cannot be 13 years already.
In celebration of this anniversary, I would like to take this time to list 13 things I love about my hubby.
1. He makes me laugh. Everyday.
2. He believes in me, even when I don't believe in myself.
3. He is a hard worker, and good provider.
4. His personality shines - brightly when needed, and allows me to shine as well.
5. His hugs....strong, close, and warm.
6. He is a wonderful father to our children.
7. His patience - with me, the kids, and life.
8. He gives more of himself than I could ever ask. From working with Miss M on math homework before he leaves for work, volunteering time to coach Drewby's football team to helping around the house when I am consumed with my depression/anxiety or volunteer duties.
9. His positive outlook on life (I could use some of that to rub off on me!)
10. He can cook!
11. He knows what little things mean the most to me...from foot rubs and back stratching to chocolate and sleeping in.
12. He accepts me as I am....whether my anxiety and depression are in full force, or under control.
And last, but certainly not least,
13. He loves me....unconditionally and totally, through all the good and bad times we've had....and all that are yet to come.
So, as I celebrate 13 years of marriage to this wonderful man of my dreams, I want to thank him...for all the things listed above, and all the things I haven't listed.
Thank you for the last 13 years of marriage, for giving me two wonderful children, and for all the little gifts, and large sacrifices.
I love you honey, and always will.
Til next time, I'll still be...
Happily married, and
Being Brenda
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
I Think I'm Falling in Love....
With a grocery store!
Today was the Grand Opening of a new grocery store near the kids school.
Hubby and I just had to stop in the check it out.
WOW! WOW! No Really....WOW!
I have always loved the self checkout lanes at grocery stores. Much quicker and more efficient for me.
This particular grocery store chain has other stores in our area. One is even closer to my house than this new one - but I haven't stepped foot into that store in 10 years.
Since Miss M was a baby.
Yes - we had to fight traffic into the new shopping center.
Yes - we had to drive around to find a parking spot.
Yes - I felt like I was one half of an old, married couple with nothing better to do than scout the new grocery store (wait, I am 1/2 of an old - well not that old - married couple. And oh, we were scouting out the new store)
Now, when we walked into the store...there was a huge crowd around some kiosks with cell phone looking things.
I do not like crowds.
So, hubby and I walk past the crowd and begin to check things out.
The store has a very large organic and natural foods section. Great deli, GREAT bakery, great meat and seafood area.
And there's samples everywhere. (I love samples)
So, at this point I am diggin' this new store. It's not yet love.
As we're walking around - I notice several people pushing carts with these great blue and green canvas bags.
"What a great idea for improving our environment!"
Then I see these same people, scanning their items before placing them in these bags!
I was so excited!
I had to find out about this.
It is this great thing - you sign up by registering for one of their store saving cards - check I already have that.
Then when you walk into the store, you scan your card at this very handy station, pick up a small (cell phone looking) handheld scanner and shop.
(Did I mention the scanner has a special holder right on the cart!?)
They have also thought of everything.
Scales in the produce department to weigh and print out price labels to scan.
Regular checks of your cart and order to ensure honesty.
AND - the store has special check out lanes solely for people using this system!
And for signing up for this service - we got one FREE blue canvas bag and two flyers FULL of store coupons!
I cannot wait to shop at this store.
I am in LOVE!
Til next time, I'll still be...
Being Brenda
Today was the Grand Opening of a new grocery store near the kids school.
Hubby and I just had to stop in the check it out.
WOW! WOW! No Really....WOW!
I have always loved the self checkout lanes at grocery stores. Much quicker and more efficient for me.
This particular grocery store chain has other stores in our area. One is even closer to my house than this new one - but I haven't stepped foot into that store in 10 years.
Since Miss M was a baby.
Yes - we had to fight traffic into the new shopping center.
Yes - we had to drive around to find a parking spot.
Yes - I felt like I was one half of an old, married couple with nothing better to do than scout the new grocery store (wait, I am 1/2 of an old - well not that old - married couple. And oh, we were scouting out the new store)
Now, when we walked into the store...there was a huge crowd around some kiosks with cell phone looking things.
I do not like crowds.
So, hubby and I walk past the crowd and begin to check things out.
The store has a very large organic and natural foods section. Great deli, GREAT bakery, great meat and seafood area.
And there's samples everywhere. (I love samples)
So, at this point I am diggin' this new store. It's not yet love.
As we're walking around - I notice several people pushing carts with these great blue and green canvas bags.
"What a great idea for improving our environment!"
Then I see these same people, scanning their items before placing them in these bags!
I was so excited!
I had to find out about this.
It is this great thing - you sign up by registering for one of their store saving cards - check I already have that.
Then when you walk into the store, you scan your card at this very handy station, pick up a small (cell phone looking) handheld scanner and shop.
(Did I mention the scanner has a special holder right on the cart!?)
They have also thought of everything.
Scales in the produce department to weigh and print out price labels to scan.
Regular checks of your cart and order to ensure honesty.
AND - the store has special check out lanes solely for people using this system!
And for signing up for this service - we got one FREE blue canvas bag and two flyers FULL of store coupons!
I cannot wait to shop at this store.
I am in LOVE!
Til next time, I'll still be...
Being Brenda
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Gatorade and Ramen Noodles
This is what my diet has consisted of since Tuesday night.
I, somehow, have contracted this darn stomach bug that's (supposedly) going around. I haven't actually heard of anyone else having this - but my dear friend MiShelly says it's going around.
So, I will believe that somewhere, someone else feels as wretched as I have felt for the last two days.
Normally, I can continue about my normal routine of caring for the house and kids while sick.
Not.This.Time.
It took all I had to get the kids up and ready for school on Wednesday. (Of course, hubby was working, so I had no choice.) I managed, somehow - to drive them to school without getting sick. (I also opted for the drive-through line drop off for the first time this year. Miss M was in charge of helping Drewby out of the van and making sure to close the door.)
I then proceeded home - laid down on the sofa - and stayed there. All day. (Well, there and the bathroom)
Hubby handled Miss M's field hockey practice last night, and I did actually cook for the rest of the family. (I did eat a little of the homemade mac-n-cheese I made for them, and regretted it all night long!) Then I spent the rest of the night in bed.
It always amazes me that hubby cannot get the two kids ready for school in the morning. Three mornings a week - when he is working - I manage to get the kids up, showered (if needed), dressed, fed, lunches packed, and out the door by 7:40am. Alone.
This morning, he did get them both up. Then proceeded to wake me up - to monitor Drewby in the shower. And help Drewby get dressed. Oh, and can I go downstairs and pack their lunches and finish making breakfast.
Hubby does try his best. He is just not a well-organized morning person. Maybe it comes from him working odd shifts, and being really out of it on mornings he is home.
I helped him out this morning. And proceeded right back to bed.
Hubby has Miss M and Drewby at cheerleading and football practice right now. I have continued my Gatorade and Ramen Noodle diet.
I must be feeling better because I have cruised blogland and am actually writing this. Hopefully tomorrow I will feel normal and be able to eat real food again (because food is one of my favorite things!)
Til next time, I'll still be....
Being Brenda
I, somehow, have contracted this darn stomach bug that's (supposedly) going around. I haven't actually heard of anyone else having this - but my dear friend MiShelly says it's going around.
So, I will believe that somewhere, someone else feels as wretched as I have felt for the last two days.
Normally, I can continue about my normal routine of caring for the house and kids while sick.
Not.This.Time.
It took all I had to get the kids up and ready for school on Wednesday. (Of course, hubby was working, so I had no choice.) I managed, somehow - to drive them to school without getting sick. (I also opted for the drive-through line drop off for the first time this year. Miss M was in charge of helping Drewby out of the van and making sure to close the door.)
I then proceeded home - laid down on the sofa - and stayed there. All day. (Well, there and the bathroom)
Hubby handled Miss M's field hockey practice last night, and I did actually cook for the rest of the family. (I did eat a little of the homemade mac-n-cheese I made for them, and regretted it all night long!) Then I spent the rest of the night in bed.
It always amazes me that hubby cannot get the two kids ready for school in the morning. Three mornings a week - when he is working - I manage to get the kids up, showered (if needed), dressed, fed, lunches packed, and out the door by 7:40am. Alone.
This morning, he did get them both up. Then proceeded to wake me up - to monitor Drewby in the shower. And help Drewby get dressed. Oh, and can I go downstairs and pack their lunches and finish making breakfast.
Hubby does try his best. He is just not a well-organized morning person. Maybe it comes from him working odd shifts, and being really out of it on mornings he is home.
I helped him out this morning. And proceeded right back to bed.
Hubby has Miss M and Drewby at cheerleading and football practice right now. I have continued my Gatorade and Ramen Noodle diet.
I must be feeling better because I have cruised blogland and am actually writing this. Hopefully tomorrow I will feel normal and be able to eat real food again (because food is one of my favorite things!)
Til next time, I'll still be....
Being Brenda
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