It's Cookie Time!!

Okay, I have really been trying to stay away from the Girl Scout cookies.

Many of you may be thinking - not so hard.

Don't buy them, if you have them, just don't eat them.

Or - eat them and be done and get over it!

Not so easy.

See I am Miss M's Troop Cookie Manager.

It is a daunting position. I had to pre-order for our troop. I had as many as 80 CASES (that's like 960 boxes) of those yummy, delicious cookies in my home at one time.

Then, the girls turned in orders, which I separated and delivered to the school for pick-up. There were only maybe 8 or 9 cases left in my house.

And just when I thought I was through the worst of it - I have to go and pick up more cases today for the girls Cookie Booth tomorrow.

28 more cases.

There are Caramel Delites, Shortbreads, Thin Mints, Thanks A Lots (chocolate dipped shortbreads!), Peanut Butter Patties, all of them.

The only ones I am not so fond of - the new Daisy Go Rounds. Of course, they are reduced fat.

So I am really, really trying to steer clear of the cookies.

Will it ever end?

Oh yes - in about one month.

Wonder how long my willpower will hold out with all these cookies is my house through March 8th?!

Til next time, I'll still be...
(trying to avoid cookies, and)

Being Brenda

Mean Girls, Part Two

You may or may not remember the trouble Miss M had with a mean girl at cheerleading this fall.

If not, this post http://beingbrenda.blogspot.com/2008/08/mean-girls-mean-girls-what-ya-gonna-do.html will remind you.

Well, to try and make a long story short - this girl ended up in class with Miss M this year.

And just before Christmas, hubby and I made a trip into the school to talk with the teacher, as the mean girl was getting physical with Miss M.

In the back of the line between classes, while walking in back of her chair in class, outisde at recess. You know, when the teacher and aides are busy elsewhere.

Now I'm not talking tripping, pushing or punching - but pressure points and unwarranted flicks and nudges.

Miss M had told this girl to leave her alone. The mean girl replied to Miss M "Shut Up" and walked away.

Anyway, since the holidays, I thought, as did Miss M, that this girl had left her alone. No more pressure points, nudges, etc.

But now, Miss M's friends have told her what this girl is saying about Miss M - behind her back.

Things like, "M has an attitude and shouldn't be allowed in Catholic school" , M is too white and fair - what's wrong with her?", and "Why does M shake her butt so much when she walks - especially up to take Communion?"

Now, I know at home Miss M can have a slight attitude. But I have never been informed of her being unpleasant by anyone - teachers, aides, other parents, students, volunteers. And I am at the school enough to know the teachers would pull me aside if this were the case.

As for Miss M shaking her butt when she walks - well maybe she does a little, but it's the way she walks all the time - not just up to Communion. And why the hell is this girl watching Miss M walk up to Communion when she should be reflecting in the sacrament she is getting ready to or has just received?!

Now for the second comment - Miss M being too white and fair. We are Irish and German. Most Irish and Germans are fair skinned. And last time I checked, this was known as being intolerant, racism. The kids are learning in school about World War II, you know the one where Hitler prosecuted the Jewish people due to their religion? And looking different. And what about when they studied the Civil War - where African Americans were sold into slavery.

Well, evidently, the teachers have had enough of the bullying that is going on in 5th grade. Miss M's class and the other 5th grade were pulled together for a 2 hour meeting with the principal.

All students who felt bullied were encouraged to give examples, without names, to the group. All students were given a piece of paper to write down the names of who was bullying them or who they have observed bullying others. The principal commented that the same FOUR names were showing on the papers and then discussed how to handle bullies. Then each student had a one on one chance to talk with the principal to discuss specifics and names.

I totally agree with this. Miss M did a good job in telling the principal what had been going on. And her friends told the principal what this girl is still saying about Miss M behind her back.

What I don't agree with is the fact the the entire 5th grade is now forced to walk between classes, to and from the lunchroom in silence. They are to get their lunches and return to their classroom to eat in silence. Then they have recess in the classroom in silence.

Why would the teachers punish the entire class instead of the four bad seeds?! I am not an educator by profession so PLEASE - someone help me to understand why this is a good method?

The school handbook has a section that deals with bullying. How it will not be tolerated.

Isn't the best way to deal with the few bullies to DEAL with the bullies?! Not punish the whole class?

Remove the bad seeds, that's what I say.

Anyhoo...that's my venting about this whole bullying situation. If anyone has any insights or comments to help me see it any other way - please share!

til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

To Date or Not To Date...What Age?

I'm a little concerned.

Miss M is 10, almost 11 years old. She is bright, outgoing, and althletic.

She is also thoughtful, quiet, and happy.

Her idea of a wonderful weekend is playing some field hockey, practicing softball, curling up with a good book, playing with her American Girl dolls, and on a great weekend - having (or going to) a girlfriend over.

I recently was talking with another 5th grade mom, when she casually asked if Miss M was one of the girls invited to the "group" movie night.

I told the mom no. She sighed a sigh of motherly relief - her daughter was not invited either.

It seems there are certain girls and boys in the 5th grade who go on group movie dates. It is unclear as to whether any parents attend the movie along with the kids or not.

Either way, I am really glad Miss M is not invited. Even if she were invited I would not allow her to go.

This seems too much like a "date" to me. Who cares if it is 3 girls and 3 boys? It is still a 1:1 boy/girl ratio.

The other mom commented to me that in talking with moms, the general impression is that - as a group - what could happen? They had not told their daughters or sons they could not go on dates (who would think to discuss an appropriate dating age by 10?!)

We have always - from as early as I can remember - commented in passing to Miss M that she will not date until she is 32, or 25, or 18.

She shows no interest in boys (other than Nick Jonas - but we've all had a little celebrity crush)

These same girls are also dressing to the nine's to go see the boys play in their baskball games.

So, while I have nothing to worry about right now - Miss M shows no interest in boys, we've discussed how her body is a gift from God and needs to always be treated with respect, and have commented with more definition now that dating is not allowed until she is at least 16 - 18 - my question is this:

Am I out of the loop? Is this a growing trend? What would you do?

I personally think all kids today are growing up way too fast. We still limit what our kids watch on TV, what they are allowed to listen to, go to church, talk to our kids, and have final say in what is worn out of the house.

Am I alone in this? What are your thoughts?

I'm really having a hard time grasping how other moms, of girls in a Catholic School, are okay with their 10 and 11 year old daughters going out on group dates with boys. Whether or not an adult is along.

(And I am oh so glad Miss M is not really friends with any of these girls)

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Snow Day Fun

The weathermen actually got it right this time - well, sort of. We did get some snow - about 2-3". Not the 4-8" they were calling for.

But enough to cancel school for the day.

Miss M and Drewby were thrilled! After breakfast, the kids begged hubby to run to the local dollar store and get 2-3 spray bottles. As hubby had just gotten home from work, the truck was cleaned off already and warm - he obliged the kiddos.

We filled the bottles with cold water and added food coloring to make "snow paint".

The kiddos grabbed a variety of containers, bundled up and out they went.

They made some very unique "snow castles" which they painted a variety of colors.

After about an hour, they were cold and wet. So in they came for "snowman soup" AKA hot chocolate with marshmallows.

All in all, it was a good day.

Miss M completed enough activities to earn her Frosty Fun girl scout badge.

Drewby was just happy to have snow to play in.

And I can walk again! (see yesterday's post for details!)

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Anticipation

Our house is sitting on pins and needles. (No - not pine needles, although our tree really needs to come down tomorrow!)


The kids and I are waiting - not so patiently - for the first accumulating snowfall in our area. It's totally NOT that I love snow, or enjoy being out in it, but I DO enjoy watching my kids play together in the snow, and taking pictures of them, then watching them light up seeing me bring out a steaming hot pot of homemade hot cocoa.


And this winter we have had several occassions we were teased with the possibility of snow. Instead it either skirted around us - or changed to an ice or rain event.


So the weathermen (yes, plural as I have watched 3 separate stations predictions for this event) are all telling me our area should recieve 3-6 inches of snow overnight and into tomorrow.


Now I know for some of you that is no big deal.


But for my kids - that will be good enough to run around, make snow angels, have a snowball fight, and possibly - just possibly get out the sled and visit "the hill".


"The hill" is this very steep hill by the local school where all the neighborhood kids go to sled. The last time it snowed here enough to sled was, I think, two-three years ago. I remember because Drewby wasn't big enough to make it all the way to the top. I don't think Miss M could climb all the way either. So they climbed to the halfway point, hopped on their sled, and down they came.


So we have fingers and toes crossed that for this once, the weathermen are right, and we will have some snow on the ground tomorow.


Til next time, I'll still be...


Being Brenda

It's Official!

Miss M has the date set to get her braces.

Well, at least the beginning phase of her braces.

Back in October, Miss M and I went into the orthodontist's office for a consultation. After several photos of Miss M and a few x-rays, I am told the doctor will be right in.

When the orthodontist comes in, the first thing she does is show me the photos they took of Miss M's teeth and profile. She points out that Miss M's chin is set back too far - leading to her significant overbite and offset front teeth. (For the last 10 1/2 years I - and Miss M - have been blissfully unaware of this "abnormality" in her development.)

After many questions, and several explanations, I am presented with the summary of proposed treatment for Miss M.

For the first 12 months - she will have braces on her four top and four bottom front teeth. Her side teeth will have this:

This is a Herbst appliance meant to correct her overbite. It does not look pleasant.

Then after the Herbst appliance is removed, she will have 18 months of traditional orthodontic treatment.

And when is all this is being placed in her mouth? Thursday, April 9th at 8:10am. Holy Thursday. You know, three days before Easter - before she is thinking she will be getting a basket of candy - like every other year. Not this year.

She will be limited in what she can eat for the first week - only soft foods - scrambled eggs, yogurt, applesauce, mashed potatoes, etc.

We have to wait until April because, get this, based upon a hand and wrist x-ray, that is when Miss M will begin a growth spurt. Don't. Ask. Me. I have no idea how they came to that conclussion, but timing is good. She should not miss a day of school, because as a Catholic school, Miss M has off Thursday, Friday, and Monday for Easter Break.

As I tell Miss M this bit of news, she sits quietly. Then she states, quite matter of factly, "Mom, do you know Taylor Swift got her braces done at the same place I'm getting mine on?" Nope. Had no clue.

She either saw something on their Wall of Fame when we were there, or was told by one of the multitude of students at her school who also go to the same orthodontist. Taylor Swift is originally from our area, and one of Miss M and her friends fave's.

I guess my baby girl won't miss the candy so much after all.

Although she did ask for a giant bag of Swedish Fish next time I go to Sam's Club. Just to get her fill before she cannot have them anymore.

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Turkeys and Toes

So tomorrow is Thanksgiving.

This is our year to spend with hubby's family. All 40 or so extended family members - aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.

The great thing is - we get to see family we haven't seen in a long time.

The drawback to that is - they go out to eat at a true Pennsylvania Dutch Family Restaurant.

Turkey, sausage, ham, potatoe filling, dried corn, boiled sweet potatoes, and homemade applesauce and pies. (That last part is my favorite part of the meal)

Miss M has been questioning hubby about why his family doesn't cook. She wants REAL food, or so she says. See Miss M has finicky tastebuds. She doesn't eat turkey unless it is really moist white meat, without gravy. (No such luck for that at this restaurant)

She will only eat real MASHED potatoes - no filling with celery and onions for her (that would be eating veggies!)

And the dried corn - well one word sums that up - YUCK!

And she is not a pie person. At All.

Add to the fact, we eat with the family as noon - and she wanted to know how we were going to have any leftovers - since she will be hungry by 5 or 6pm and the restaurant does not do doggie bags.

Well, crockpot to the rescue!

I have decided I am cooking a turkey in my crockpot while we are out with the family. I can make the mashed potatoes, and CANDIED yams, and real corn once we get home. Along with biscuits and gravy. Not a Traditional Thanksgiving meal, but a meal we will be Thankful for - with leftovers too!

Miss M is very THANKFUL about having a second chance at Thanksgiving Dinner.

Now you may be asking yourself - where do Toes come into this post.

Well....in all my poise and grace, I stumbled (or actually fell) down the last three steps in our house yesterday morning. In my socked feet. As I was on my way out the door - after I was able to see straight - I shoved my foot into a pair of shoes and went on my merry way.

I was babysitting my nephew while my brother-in-law and his wife had an ultrasound of their twins. I took my shoes off when I got to their house. And kept them off for 2-3 hours.

I couldn't get the one back on. At. All.

I hobbled out to my van and drove home. Took off my shoes and socks, and guess what greeted me? An ugly, swollen, black and blue toe. 4th toe, right foot. (Yes, driving home was quite uncomfortable)

So I called my foot doctor and he could see me today. So in I went, along with Miss M and Drewby, because they were off from school.

3 x-rays and an exam later - it has been decided my toe is NOT broken. It is badly sprained with a torn ligament.

In other words, more painful than a broken toe.

So, I have been hobbling around with one sneaker on and one slipper on - because no shoe will fit over my toe.

Oh, and please recall I have hubby's 20th year reunion this weekend. Yeah right. I am really hoping the swelling goes down so I can at least get my foot into a pair of heels to walk into the reunion, and slip out of them once I sit down.

I can hope anyway.

But I will enjoy my Thanksgiving - both dinners, and the time with family.

I hope you all have a wonderful, blessed Thanksgiving.

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Tree Competition

Healthy competition is a good thing, right?

The school hosted a Holiday Breakfast with Santa over the weekend, and it raised almost $3,000 for the school. YEAH!

One of the decorations was that each grade had a Christmas tree to decorate as it chose. Drewby is in 1st Grade and Miss M is in 5th Grade. All in all there were 10 trees decorated by kids in grade Pre-School through 8th Grade.

All of the trees were absolutely BEAUTIFUL!

And each patron to the breakfast received a ticket to vote for their favorite tree.

Well, Drewby's class decided - with some help from some moms - to do a "Visions of Sugar Plums" tree. It was all decked out in CANDY. Real Candy Canes, candy canes the kids made from licorice and mini-marshmallows, gumdrop balls, applesauce-cinnamon cut-outs, glass ornaments filled with Skittles, Nerds, Sweet Tarts, and a hand-made gingerbread man as a topper! Then each 1st grader made two ornaments from a sugar, water, and glitter mixture, which once hardened - one was hung on the tree and the other will be a gift for the nuns at the Villa.

Miss M's 5th Grade class decided on a Natural Tree. They dried orange and apple slices, covered pine cones with peanut butter and birdseed, strung popcorn and cranberries, and filled in with poinsettias and berry sprays. Their tree SMELLED wonderful and looked professionally done. (I am SO glad the teacher steered them toward this idea because one of the other ideas were a Video Game tree)

Well, the votes were counted, and the results are in. Drewby's grade won with 120 votes. The prize, a Pizza Party in class!

Miss M's class came in 2nd place with 93 votes.

I am VERY happy I was a volunteer working at this breakfast and not an attendee - I would have only had one vote and not been able to choose between the two!

My kids are not yet aware of the results. I know my kids love each other - but they are both certain that their tree was the best. And, as siblings often do, they have a competitive streak between them.

SO - I am hoping the school waits until AFTER Thanksgiving break to tell the students the results.

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

How Quickly Time Flies

Hello again!

I cannot believe I've been away from BloggyLand for SOOOO Long!

We've had quite an interesting 6 weeks or so.

I'd love to write about it all, but there is just no way - so I will highlight for you:

Halloween was uneventful - my Darth Vader and Rennaissance Princess trekked around the neighborhood with DH and I stayed put to hand out candy.

We found out Miss M not only needs braces - but needs this strange contraption called a Herbst Device placed in her mouth. More on that in a separate post.

Hubby started a new position with his current employer. He is now working a "normal" shift - permanent 3rd shift: Sunday - Thursday nights 10:45pm - 6:45am. This is a good thing - but has taken some adjusting to.

I have successfully made it through yet another HUGE school fundraiser - we served over 600 breakfasts this morning.

And finally - back full circle from where I last left off - Drewby is sick again. I can hear the doctor now...Back to the ENT specialist for another set of tubes in the ears! (I really hope not)

Anyway - I am hoping to be back on-line and posting and checking in with all of you on a more regular basis now.

Til next time, I'll still be....

Being Brenda

Weekend Recap in 90 Seconds or Less

Friday night was movie night as Drewby was sick.

Saturday was football and more football as Drewby's team played in the morning (yes, even sick he went and played - he had no fever) and Miss M had to cheer for her team that evening.

Saturday afternoon - we went to Mass, as we were going away all day Sunday.

Drewby had a rough time at the evening game - the cool air hurt his ear.

Dinner with friends and their kids after the game - Table for 9 please!

Sunday was spent at the Renaissance Faire with Lizzie and Kiki.

The kids had a great time hanging out with (mom and dad) Nana and Kiki.

Here's some fun highlights from the day - Drewby and Miss M were properly trained by a squire and wench as to how to greet the Queen, Drewby was knighted by the Queen, Miss M learned Peasant Dances, and we all cheered "God Save The Queen"- in our best British accents - way too many times!

We also all ate (drank) way too much food (beer/wine)! (More on this day in another post)

Monday was a day off school - and a lazy day to rest from Sunday's walking, walking, and more walking.

Other than that - it was a pretty normal weekend!

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

And the Votes Are In!

So yesterday was Election Day at the kid's school.

All children heard speeches on Monday from the upper class mates running for Student Government President, Vice President, Secretary and Treasurer.

In their own classrooms, each candidate had to give a short speech about why they would make the best classroom rep to Student Government.

Miss M and Drewby both gave their campaigns their best effort.

Votes were cast on Tuesday and results were announced this morning.

At pick up this afternoon...the looks on their faces said it all.

Drewby and Miss M were both defeated by other students.

Miss M took the loss in stride...this was (after all) her 5th attempt at a Representative spot.

Drewby took the loss a little bit harder.

But he was pleased with the little girl who won for his classroom.

I was also very proud of Miss M.

She clapped for the winner of her class and made it a point to personally go over and congratulate her after the announcement.

Miss M actually seemed a bit shocked the other losing candidates did not do this.

Miss M is really growing into quite a young woman.

She has her moments when she shows us through her actions and words, that for the last 10 1/2 years she has been listening, and paying attention to know what is the right thing to do in situations.

It does appear that next year, Miss M will not be running for office again.

After 5 years, she is (finally) abandoning her political aspirations.

Drewby on the other hand, made it a point in the van to talk about how he will change his campaign for next year.

And how he hopes a certain little girl is NOT in his class next year!

At least we have a year to prepare....not that I am that organized!

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Playing Favorites

I am in a very awkward situation.

When hubby and I got married, nearly 13 years ago, I knew I was not favored by my future in-laws.

I came from a single parent household, was a well-educated, and a self-sufficient young woman.

I had a career.

My husband openly admitted to me he was the first-born (of 5 kids) in his family, but so not the favorite.

My in-laws did not welcome me openly into their family.

Matter of fact, the picture of hubby and I on our wedding day with his family places he and I in the back row. You cannot even see my whole face!

Basically you see my eyes and veil.

Yes, this picture still hangs in their living room.

It has, to say the least, made for some awkward family gatherings.

Fast forward to the present day.

Miss M is the oldest of my in-laws grandchildren, and is the only grand-daughter.

Drewby is the third born grandchild.

There are currently 6 grandchildren, with two more on the way.

Here is my predicament.

Drewby plays flag football every Saturday morning at 9:30am.

Emily cheers every Sunday at 2pm. Field hockey games are only played at two tournaments all fall, one was last weekend, one is the end of October.

Now, hubby's next youngest brother, has 3 boys. Two, M and J play soccer. Every Saturday and Sunday.

My in-laws also watch these boys and their younger brother, three days a week - and always have.

So here was my conversation with Drewby today.

D: "Mommy, are grandma and grandpa coming to my game today?"

Me: "Oh, I don't know sweety"

Hubby: "I don't know. I haven't heard from or talked to my parents all week."

(Let me digress here for a moment. I think this says TONS about hubby's relationship with his parents. I cannot imagine going a whole week without talking to my mom at least once. My dad is a different story altogether, for another time.)

D: "But why don't they come see my games. They go to M and J's games every weekend."

Here is where I, as well as hubby, were stumped.

We didn't realize Drewby, in his nearly 7 years of life, would be so aware of this fact.

My in-laws play favorites.

And my kids aren't it.

Miss M has made the same observation.

To date, my in-laws have come to one of Miss M's games to see her cheer (arrived late and left right after half-time), one of Drewby's football games, and one of her field hockey games.

Some weekends, they go to up to two or three soccer games for the nephews.

I am trying to be a bigger person and find a way to explain the in-laws behavior to my kids.

However, I am really getting tired of not only having the in-laws treat me poorly, but now my kids.

Hubby claims that his parents are not "football" people.

Really?

It's their grandkids. I don't think it should matter what they are playing.

So I figure I have a few options here:

1) Continue status quo and just tell my kids that grandma and grandpa had other plans and couldn't make it even though they do ( cough, cough) try.

2) Tell the kids as it is. Grandma and grandpa prefer to go see M and J because they (like them better) play soccer, and that it a sport they like to watch.

3) Have Miss M and Drewby ask grandma and grandpa this question themselves. And see what is said.

or 4) Call my in-laws and give them a piece of my mind!

Numbers 2 and 4 would probably start an argument with hubby, so not the way I want to go.

Number 1 is what I have been doing and am really tired of it.

So, I am left thinking Number 3 it is.

Actually, I would like to just make a point of NOT involving my in-laws is any way in our lives, but I don't think that is an option.

Hubby stays pretty low key over this, as he is used to having favorites played.

He firmly believes in just accepting his parents, and the way they treat our kids, and having our kids do the same.

What do you think?

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Campaign Central

So it is that time of the year again - Election time!

For Student Government, that is.

Both of my kids have decided to run for their respective classroom Representative positions.

For Miss M, this will be the fifth year she will be running (yes, she has run each year since 1st grade - unsuccessfully - but remains determined)

For Drewby, this is the first year he is able to run.

Tonight was campaign poster making night. Drewby came up with the idea for his poster...and I helped a little on the computer and with the big cutter.

"Score a Touchdown...Vote for Drewby" is his slogan. He put his face on a flying football...very cute.

He is one of 12 kids in his class (of 23) running for class representative.

Miss M was in total control of hers. It is filled with a picture of her, her slogan "Your choice for a New voice", and traits she possesses which would make her a good rep.

Oh and we cannot forget the pink hearts, yellow stars, and green clovers...just kidding (about the green clovers).

She is one of 9 kids, out of 22 running for class rep.

Tomorrow night will be sticker making night (since we don't have the button making gadget we do round stickers).

And there is a strict policy of no candy hand-outs. (that was Drewby's first choice!)

Which is a good thing as one of the girls in Miss M's grade is our State Reps daughter. The one year she ran, there were helium balloons with her name on them as a hand-out.

I don't even try to compete with that!

Then, they will both have speeches to write and the weekend to work on presenting them.

Next Monday is Rally Day, when they will each give their speech to their classes.

And next Tuesday, is Election Day.

It is a busy week for a 6 and 10 year old - on top of homework and sports.

Of course, I am way more into this campaign than the actual political campaign going on. (On that front I am still undecided.)

As for our homefront campaign - I know who my choices would definitely be.

Oh that's right - only the students get to vote!

So I will wait (impatiently) for the results of this election to come in next Wednesday.



Til next time, I'll still be...



Being Brenda

What a Week!

I cannot believe it has been so long since I've had a chance to post.

Mondays are our "free days" here. No one has any after school or evening activities. So that was my last chance to post.

One of the things making this week so crazy is Miss M's homework.

She is technically in 5th grade - but her and some other kids have tested for placement into 6th grade math.

She can totally handle the work, understands the math concepts - it is the sheer volume of homework.

She has 30 math problems each night. Most of which have multiple steps, with all work needing to be shown.

Add onto that, spelling - written word definitions, and sentences.

Then she has social studies - writing key words and definitions, as well as the occassional worksheet.

Then she has English - at least a page or two of various English papers (definitions, dictionary skills, etc.)

Then she has science - questions or worksheets or definitions. Oh and she has a biome project due in 10 days.

Then she has reading - typically review/reread the story and answer questions in writing. Or read pages in the current novel being read. (Big project subject)

Then she has Religion - which at the 5th grade level is very conceptual, and requires a significant amount of rereading and discussion. (another big project subject)

Add onto all this homework, which has been taking approx. 2 1/2 hours each night - two nights of cheerleading practice and two nights of field hockey practice.

Now the diocese has established homework guidelines for each grade level. For 5th grade, the guideline is 60-90 minutes per night.

I have talked to other parents, and this is not just happening with Miss M. Many of the students are taking 2 - 3 hours to complete the assigned homework each night.

Thank goodness I pick the kids up at school and she is home by 3pm. She ends up doing homework until 5pm when we leave to go to various practices. Then we are home by 8:30pm, she eats and finishes her homework, showers, and gets to bed around 10pm.

So here is my question, is this typical homework for a 5th grader? (Miss M is my firstborn - so I really don't know what to expect)

I also cannot ask any 5th grade parents from last year - as this is the first year the school has allowed advanced placement of 5th graders into 6th grade math.

What do you all think? What has been your experience?

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Hair Wrap Update

Okay, I must apologize for my rant yesterday.

I have calmed down and realized that continuing to obsess over the hair wrap issue at Miss M's school does me no good.

The school has rules. We follow them, just as we try to live our life as our Lord would want.

I also realized, I was not living the values we are teaching to our children.

So - after I come to this realization last night I go into the school this afternoon to pick up some papers. The principal stops me.

Long story short - she starts discussing the hair wraps. She starts by telling me she praised Miss M for following the rules and doing what is right.

Then she states she was unaware of the expense of these hair wraps - but that she cannot discuss actions taken with another student with me. Just as she would not discuss Miss M with another parent.

I get this and would not expect her to.

We also talk about how all children are given a timeframe to correct any uniform/appearance violations. And that children who violate the rules are often times questioned more by their peers than anyone.

As she did not state this child will be made to remove the wrap, I can only come to the conclusion that she has made an exception to allow this student to keep the hair wrap. Due to the cost.

Miss M says she has seen other kids ask this girl why she has not taken out her hair wrap.

I actually feel sorry for this girl. It appears to me that the mother brought the cost, and indirectly, their family's financial situation into the school. And placed this young child the center.

While I still don't agree with the school on making exceptions for uniform violations, I accept that we live by the rules, and do what is right.

And this is a valuable learning experience for Miss M and myself: That in the end, those who do what is right, while not always easy, will reap the rewards. Doing what is wrong, pointing out the wrong-doers, will not benefit us and is not righteous.

"And let us not get tired of doing what is right,

for after a while we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t get discouraged and give up. That’s why whenever we can we should always be kind to everyone, and especially to our Christian brothers."

-- Galatians 6: 9-10

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Rules...and Consequences

I am having a hard time with something.

Rules.

More specifically, how certain rules often times do not apply equally to everyone.

And it is partially me having the problem, but more so Miss M.

See, over vacation Miss M wanted so much to have one of those hair wraps put in her hair. I figured, it's the end of June, it will come unravelled or fall out by the time school starts.

And it looked quite cute on her.

So the first week of school, the children have a "Fashion Show" detailing what is appropriate to wear with their uniforms, and what is not.

You guessed it, hair wraps are not allowed. All girls were told, by the principal, to have them removed by 9/2.

And of course, Miss M's hair wrap was still fully intact.

So, Monday night - Labor Day, Aunt Kiki painstakingly used a seam ripper to remove the hair wrap and save Miss M's locks.

All last week, things were good in school.

Friday, I pick Miss M and Drewby up from school.

Here's the conversation that occurred:

M: "Mom, (girl's name) still has her hair wrap in"

Me: "Really?"

M: "Yeah, she said her mom (who works at the school as a teacher's aide) asked the principal and was told she could keep her wrap in. Why would the principal do that? All the other girls and I had to take ours out and we all listened. It's not fair."

Me: "No M, it's not fair. Are you sure you heard the principal correctly at the fashion show?"

M: "Yes. We were told we had to take them out. My teacher was even the one who asked"

Hubby was.not.happy.

Those hair wraps are pretty expensive. And I can totally understand not wanting to have to either 1) cut the hair wrap out or 2) like Kiki did, rip the wrap out and deal with the knotted mess of hair underneath.

But we, like all the others, followed the rule. Without Question.

Hubby was ready to go right back to school Friday and demand to see the principal. Luckily for me, he had to leave for work.

Had this all occurred on Thursday, I probably would have also been THAT parent on Friday morning. But it was Friday afternoon. I had all weekend to mull this over.

So, in a rare moment of brilliance, I decided to teach Miss M how to use her voice.

I told Miss M that if she didn't think this was fair - she should approach the principal for clarification. I am her mom, and will support her always. But I will not (for lack of a better phrase) fight her battles for her. She can stand on her own if she feels unfairly treated.

So on Monday, Miss M bravely spoke to the principal.

M: "Principal(P), may I ask you a question?"

P: "Sure Miss M. What can I do for you?"

M: "Did I hear you correctly at the fashion show - you stated all hair wraps were to be removed. Correct?"

P: "Yes. You heard me correctly."

M: "Well, there is a girl who still has her hair wrap in. Should I say something to her about it?" (this part was not completely done how we had rehearsed)

P:" No, and don't say any names. I will keep an eye out and when I see this girl, I will remind her it needs to be removed."

M: "Thanks!"

So we waited.

Miss M came home from school today.

M: "Mom, (girl) still has her hair wrap in. She said she was told by the principal she can keep it in until it falls out or comes unwrapped. But the principal told me she would tell her to take it out."

Now, I am more than a little disturbed.

Either, this girl is a great liar - and keeps well away from the principal.

Or, the principal lied to my daughter.

Either way - I am torn about what to do.

I do not want to be the mom that rushes into the school when something does not go my kid's way.

But I do not feel rules should be selectively applied either.

However, I know there may be exceptions made for circumstances, but then should that not be explained - as best possible - if questioned?

Please help me out here.

Should I not expect the rules to apply to all students? Should I not expect the principal to be forthright with my daughter?

Hubby is not happy that this is a school where morals and values are being taught but not reinforced.

Because what is it teaching the majority of the kids who DO follow the rules, when those few kids who do NOT follow the rules suffer no consequences?

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Miss M's Day

So, yesterday Drewby got to play football in the rain.

Today, Miss M had her day. And it was a beautiful day. 78 degrees at gametime, not a cloud in the sky (more on that later)

She was Cheer Captain today...and a climber.

To her, that was great news. Not so much for me.

Being Cheer Captain - Great!

Being a climber - not so great.

One thing Miss M enjoys more than yelling - climbing.

Now, at the age of 10, the stunts she does are not extremely difficult. But she is climbing onto other 9 and 10 year olds. All who enjoy giggling, and jumping, and yelling.

Here she is climbing on two other girls.

Immediately after I took this picture, two of the girls ended up on the ground - one being Miss M.

No one was hurt - thankfully - but this is one of my fears, as the girls do not have spotters. (I envision Miss M breaking an arm, wrist, leg, ankle - the list is practically endless)

I know, I am overprotective.

I am working to overcome this. I do not want Miss M and Drewby to be afraid to try new things for fear of getting hurt.

I do need to remind myself of this. Often.

(I have just realized how much I will dread next football season when Drewby moves to playing tackle football - and if Miss M cheers, the stunts become more difficult)

But, I digress.

Miss M had a wonderful time today. And their squad looked great for the first game. The only downside - their team lost by 6 points.

Not that you can tell, huh?

Oh, back to the weather. It was a beautiful day, yes. And obviously my concern for my children does not include sunburn. I forgot to put sunscreen on them, and both their faces are red!

Miss M even has the nice, angled neckline sunburn marks.

I will definitely be putting sunscreen in Miss M's cheer bag for next week's game!

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Labor Day Weekend

This weekend has been a whirlwind of activities.

Saturday we took the kids to the Real Pirates! exhibit at the Franklin Institute in Philly.

Drewby is really into pirates and knights right now.

The Real Pirates exhibit is about a pirate ship, the Whydah Gally, which was located off Cape Cod. There were actual cannons, guns, and pirate treasure on display.

Drewby was fascinated with the artifacts, and the fact the youngest pirate was 8 or 9 years old.

He definitely sees this as an alternative to playing football or going to school. He now has the pirate bandana, eye patch and telescope. He's all set.

Miss M liked the exhibit, but was more into the other exhibits at the Franklin, including the Sports Challenge, where her softball pitch was timed at 22 MPH. (And that wasn't even a good pitch.)

We trekked all over the Franklin, and even hit a show at the Fehls Planetarium. However, after the show, we found out the Franklin closes at 5pm.

I suppose I should have known what time the Franklin closed, but - I didn't.

And I had promised Drewby we could see the train exhibit after the planetarium show.

Did I mention the one other thing Drewby really likes is TRAINS?!?!

Needless to say, the entire drive home, as well as all evening, I had to hear how we missed seeing the trains.

Not that the kids were ungrateful for the day, or had a bad time. They just both chose to focus on what we didn't see - instead of what we did see. (I know, they take after me - as I also tend to look toward the negative and need to try harder to focus on the positive)

(Okay, I started this post Saturday night, then fell asleep - so here's the rest of the weekend's events!)

Sunday, we were once again helping my brother-in-law and his wife, by watching their 21-month old son. He only works weekends, and she is on bed rest, pregnant with twins.

So I made a big pan of lasagna and we spent the afternoon and evening at their house playing with our nephew. Once he was safely in bed around 8:30pm, our shift was over, as my brother-in-law gets home around 11:30pm.

It was a good day, and I know they truely appreciate our help.

The Monday we travelled from one end of the county to the other end, and back home.

We started at home, and just had to stop at Chik-Fil-A for the free chicken strips to anyone wearing a football logo. Miss M and Drewby each wore one of Drewby's football jerseys, and my hubby wore his Cardinals football t-shirt. I was the odd one (but I only really wanted a sweet tea anyway)

From there, we went to hubby's other brother's house for thier youngest sons 3rd birthday.

Hanging with the out-laws, um I mean in-laws, is never one of my favorite things to do. (But that is for an entirely different post)

So, we did the hubby's family for lunch, cake, and presents. (3hours and 17 minutes - start to finish)

Then we left and headed for my mom's house - Lizzie's. She had invited us over for each day of the weekend, and we had other things going, so Monday I was determined to get to see her. (Both for me and the kids)

When we pulled up - Kiki was there too, along with her girlfriend Kaleah. The kids and I were so excited!

I can't tell you the last time the kids saw Kiki, and I hadn't seen her since Neil Diamond.

So we all hung out, and ate a great meal - thanks Mom! - and just relaxed.

I love getting together with my family. And hubby doesn't mind to much either. He has pretty great in-laws (not out-laws, like I have)

Having Kiki back home from California (she lived there for 3 1/2 years) has been great. While she does live 2 hours away - it is so much better than having her across the country. We've gotten to go to the beach with her, and just hang out at mom's. Plus she will get to see the kids action in their various sports.

So that was our weekend - the kids didn't want to leave mom's house, but school was back in session today, and they needed showers and to get to bed.

We did make plans for all of us to go to the PA Renaissance Faire in October.

I figure, Drewby's gotten to see all about pirates - why not let him go see knights! And the Ren Faire to such a cool place - and Drewby has never been there. In fact, Emily hasn't been there in 6 or 7 years.

That's all for our weekend....

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

Updates

This is just going to be a quick update, because I am still feeling pretty down - and I am exhausted to boot!

On the puppy watch - hubby still says it's a no go to get Drewby a pug puppy for his birthday. I have not given up yet. I have until November!!

Couponing is going okay. I don't have much of a coupon stash yet - so I am limited in my savings. Last week my total was $3.55 in coupon savings. More was saved due to Club Card savings, but I don't have that total in my head right now.

My hubby has not yet decided what to do about his BFF's wedding in October. It has been decided - mutually - that the four of us as a family are not going. He may fly down to Florida for two days to go - but will not do Disney.

Miss M has handled the mean girl well so far this year. The cheerleading coach has separated them, and Miss M steers clear of this girl both in school and at cheerleading.

And yes Diamonds are forever. The Neil Diamond concert was FAB-U-LOUS!! He put on quite a show - sang all our favorites (Forever in Blue Jeans - mine, Cracklin'Rosie - Kiki's, and I Am I Said - Lizzie's) Then the three of us had an enjoyable evening out.

That's all for the update....

Til next time, I'll still be...

Being Brenda

My Little Man

Today, Miss M and Drewby went back to school.

It is hard to believe Miss M is starting 5th grade and Drewby is in 1st grade.

Drewby has the same teacher Miss M had for 1st grade.

I walked Drewby to his classroom as he was a little apprehensive.

The teacher welcomed him warmly. She showed him where to place his bookbag and bag of tissues and paper towels.

He saw several friends from last year.

Then he was fine.

So fine, he walked into the classroom without giving me a hug or kiss.

I was a little (okay, more than a little) shocked.

Is this the same little boy who held my hand walking down the hall?

Who needs to sit right next to me (or on my lap) whenever he can?

Who needs to be tucked into bed several times by me to be able to sleep?

Who would give me a hug and a kiss every hour of every day if he could?

Yes, it is the same little boy, although he is not so little anymore.

He is growing up quickly, learning something new everyday.

At the end of the school day, Drewby came running right out to me and gave me that big hug I didn't get this morning.

Then he and Miss M took turns telling me all the great things that happened today.

And we all went for an ice cream cone to celebrate the beginning of a new school year, and for me to remember my kids will only be little once.

Although, Miss M will always be my baby girl and ...

Drewby will always be my little man.


Til next time, I'll still be.....

Being Brenda